Being curved does not mean you were bewitched or that it is the end of the world! Many of us usually cannot wait to join campus because it comes as liberation to our love life. Or at least we think it does. Many of us have grown up in extremely “tight” families where we only leave the house while going to church or going back to school. To make it worse, we have gone to very strict schools where Boy-Girl relationships are punishable; it’s at this point that one cannot wait to get out of that dungeon and feel free to explore his/her sexual life. But, let me break your heart at this point. University is not what it might seem like.
You have probably watched a lot of movies or heard a lot from your friends that you cannot wait to try out. Girls curving guys is not learnt. It is inborn. It only takes a while before it manifests. Campus has a pool of girls of all kinds. Whether you like them short, tall, big or small campus is the place to find them. The only problem is, much as they might be all over, it is not a place of liberation as you thought. Because they are at university, it does not mean they changed. Well, they have matured a bit but they are the same people you knew. What girls want is a bit overrated. They will always create an imaginary ideal guy in their heads who in most cases is so different from what you are.
There is no definite reason as to why girls curve guys easily. Many do it because they want to feel enlisted on the hard-to-get-girls list, or because their friends have curved you before, your style or even the shoes you wear could be another girl’s reason to curve you. Maybe you could just genuinely not be their type. The good news is, this will not last forever. I didn’t say it will not happen again. It will definitely happen again but you could control how often that occurs. By the second semester, you have learnt a lot from the “cool” guys that never get it wrong. Change your wardrobe if need be, assimilate yourself into the rich/cool guys’ crew. Learn how to pronounce some words right. Hang out with better people. It gets easier. By the second year, your story will be different and you will probably be giving tips to other freshmen.
