We all must agree that the length of relationships has greatly declined as many young people will admit that their relationships have never made a 10 month birthday, one might wonder what might be the problem but research has it that people have a stronger relationship with their phones and virtual people than the people they claim to actually love.
Break-ups have become the norm of the day, and it’s surprising but a breakup no longer has the effect it had back in the day, to many it’s normal hence moving on is quite easy. But in some dire circumstances, love is strewn around that a breakup is a life threatening situation as people even threaten to commit suicide. Today, we bring you tested tips to help you deal with a breakup;
Contact purge
Change all your social media passwords and then block them everywhere: Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Skype, Snapchat and your phone, along with unfollows on all social media platforms that might remind you of them. They are your ex, anyways! We would also recommend steering clear of social media for at least a day or two; you’re not going to miss out on much in the way of your virtual social life, and it’ll keep you from creeping where you should not be and from making emotional posts that will embarrass you in the future.
Let it all out
You are not superman and you shouldn’t be, neither are you a person without feelings so after the heart crashing breakup words, let it all out regardless of whether you are the guy or the babe. Instead of trying to be tough and burying your feelings, allow yourself to feel it all. Cry a lot and come to grips with the fact that what you had is gone and won’t come back. Let yourself feel the flood of emotions entirely and allow yourself to go through the five stages of grief [denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance] without the risk of going off like a loose cannon in public. Turn your house into a personal love detox center filled with cheesy break up songs followed by empowering songs with choreographed dances. Then after the allotted mourning time is over, pick yourself up and re-enter the real world.
Lean on the people in your life
You are accepted to be pathetic now that you are going through a hard time and your family and friends know it too, it’s only fair that they expect you to lean on them so in normal circumstances, they will offer a shoulder directly or indirectly. Call up your best friends and tell them everything you’ve been holding in and let out all your feelings in the comfort of your own living room or at your place and let yourself cry on their shoulders. Don’t shame yourself by going to the bar or to a restaurant to cry from their, people their don’t want to know your problems and will look at you as an emotional cry baby.
Watch a movie
As you take your time off work and school, take time and watch a movie. Emotional and sad movies have a way of letting you know that you are not alone. Movies like; The Notebook, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, 500 Days of Summer, The Breakup, among others are perfect for such situations. You could call over a friend and ask them to carry along your favorite drink, whisky perhaps.
Don’t have or even think of break-up sex
You broke up for a reason and you don’t have sex with people you’re trying to get over, it’s just not logical. Especially if you’re a woman, because during sex, a hormone called Oxycontin (or the dreaded “cuddle hormone”) is released in the female body, this is lethal for getting over someone as it makes you trust your partner more, lowers your defenses, increases levels of empathy and it puts you at risk for falling right back in love with the very person you must be getting away from. This is the time to think with your brain and not your heart or genitals!
Behave with dignity and self-respect
This will save you a lot of shame after the cold wind of the breakup blows over, you don’t want to do anything that you will regret. Hence, avoid posting details about your breakup on social media, don’t bad mouth your ex, and be in the company of people who won’t let you do anything stupid.
Enjoy being single, it’s extremely fun
Being single is like being free again, being able to do anything that you want or desire without worrying who you hurt or the consequences of your overall actions. We are not saying that you should go around making a fool of yourself. But being single is actually fun, when in a relationship, you have a double bill, when single, it’s a single bill, damn right!
Whatever you are going through, it will come to pass, and you have to move on because you are human. You shall meet a hot guy or babe tomorrow and guess what, you’ll instantly forget that you once dated James or Joan.
