By Cheryl Hama
Twitter: @Cherylhama
I often ask myself: why go there? It amuses me so, to see how much people would stomach all in the name of petty fright. Yes I just called you cowards. Wondering what I am talking about? Good that means I have your full undivided attention.
The friend zone. Now those new to the term listen up. The friend zone refers to a platonic relationship wherein one person wishes to enter into a romantic or sexual relationship, while the other does not.
Now, am going to split this into two parts; the friend zoner (the person in the friend zone), and the friend zon-ee(the victim of the friend zoner). Ps; these words do not exist in the dictionary, yet.
To the friend zoner, I have only three words for you: coward, man up! First off, you are a liar. You are lying to the zon-ee and most importantly yourself. If you’re interested in a person, tell them. Do not act all friendly to seek some kind of extra affection because that’s all you’ll end up with: friendship. Take it from me, being a zoner makes you appear sweet and nothing more. If you want it, go grab it be focused, period!
Zon-ees ; here there are two types, the completly oblivious ones and the knowledgeable ones. Now those under the former category, all is forgiven but, step up your observatory skills.
The knowledgeable zon-ees: If you are aware of the zoner’s intention, and give encouragement, you are in your own league of cowardice. Why? It’s simple really. Preying on someone’s emotions to make yourself appear “cool” and more “desirable” to the public eye has never been cool. Stop the emotional predatory tendencies and concentrate on your self esteem. Tell the zoner you like them, or don’t, need more time, or you are simply confused. Choose a response of your fancy, but be clear. Do not string the zoner along with mixed signals. That’s just wrong.
All that being said, to be or not to be, should not be the question. Either be real friend, with no ulterior motives or tell the person in question that you want more than friendship then; brace yourself for impact. Do not settle for the friend zone because that type of limbo is very unhealthy.
