I am not saying I do not want to understand and be nice to my friends but my patience is hanging by the thinnest thread. My ability to come up with anymore sympathetic “Oh no, he should be hanged, we should pay back,” comments is all tapped out. We have all had our fair share of bedding the wrong guy or guys (oops), it happens. I need my sleep, its been 3 years now, these late night sympathy seeking calls are killing me. So here’s everything I would like to say to a girl that puts up with a fuckboy.
First thing, have you not understood the term fuckboy by now? I mean, it’s clearly spelled out. The term is a slightly more polite way to say man whore. Now, in which world would a man whore give up his routine for one girl? Unless you are the one, and being that the one is one, if he’s not treating you like the one then you’re not the one; you get it? So please if you decide to engage in an emotional turmoil don’t come crying or cursing out the fuckboy because he likes his ladies, his nickname clarified things from go. He gladly accepts his title for a reason.
Why on earth are you dealing with someone who’s into you for only your hoo-ha? Unless it’s a two-way street and you are using him as much as he is you, then you’re bargaining for too little. Aren’t these uplifting “Honey, you are a Queen, wear your crown speeches” not getting through? Yes the world has been infested with scrubs of late but nice boys are out there too. They might be too nice and predictable or too normal, but who some days pizza and movies not always random wild turn up with his fuckboy squad, my sister. First ditch the one dragging you down and you will find someone who will appreciate you.
Darn it, you are not going to change him. That’s the problem with we girls, we go into relationships hoping to change the man all the while the man hoping we never change. Men hate to be controlled, they need the control but throwing it in their face never works out fine. A guy will change for you if he has to but never mistake him to change because you asked him to, or let him get oral sex. If you don’t like his lifestyle, why on earth are you putting up with it?
Take a hint, he’s not busy, he’s just too busy for you. People make time for people and things they care about so if he’s not checking in the time, he’s just not interested. Why choose to live a pathetic life of pleading and begging for a boy to like you back? Get a life and pick on a boy who will actually pick up his phone and call or text you. Set standards and live by them.
Seek counseling. I am not saying that these boys possess demonic spirits that mess with your head, all am saying is that you must be messed-up to keep returning to a boy that treats you like trash. Boys will be boys, they stick their thing in anything that offers, that’s how they roll sadly, so it’s not the fuckboy it’s you. You may not see or value your worth until an outsider points it out, so seek help, preferably from someone who doesn’t know you. Break the spell that is spreading your legs for a grinning player. You might be there bonded by spirits for nothing.
Nothing can be achieved without letting the Lord in one your troubles. Pray for guidance and you will find it. With that said, there’s nothing wrong with enjoying yourself if it’s a no strings attached relationship, the problem is if you are emotionally invested in a boy that never looks you in the eye but your cleavage. Yes they are horrible people for playing around with girls’ feelings but if you are putting up with them then deal with it. Deal with him and his ways because they aren’t going to change, and if you want to break free of this fuckboy make the effort and you will. Just please stop acting surprised or angry because your number is saved as shagger 22 or Sky lounge tits, you honestly let this happen.
