By Agathat Muhaise
We have all heard all the cliques that describe love, its blind, it is stupid blah blah. Well it may not make much sense at first glance until it leads you into the most desperate and drastic actions, which is cohabiting as I see it. That may sound nonreligious but then even the bible supports the argument, to cleave you have to be in a committed relationship. For those of you who are being too stubborn to admit the truth, I mean marriage with that madly expensive ring on your finger not foolish campus “he said he will marry me” love. The best of us have been there but then what comes of it?
The heart never grows fonder
Hail to the wise man who coined this idea, because trust me someone in your face every single morning when you are not married is not a joke. When do you get to miss her, when do you get to do the silly lovey-dovey nonsense of calling her three times a day and having your WhatsApp memory full of void messages to each other? In other words you are skipping a stage in the relationship. Give it a little time and there will be nearly no more magic, nothing new and then what. Is the hypothetical wedding called off then? Young love has never been fun without a little missing attached to it.
Who is footing the bills?
Okay, you are both at campus. Parents are the ones that are refilling your wallets. But who gets to pay for what. I mean the hostel, the food, the transport, is it a joint account or is it the classic man of the house (sorry hostel) takes care of the family? And besides how long till the sole provider is fed up and starts making excuses of no money? Once again I ask the question how long do you think it will last. At university students are still under the care of someone, it is quite unreasonable for you to add another stomach to that equation. Get a job. I recently bumped on a tale of a couple that was cohabiting for three years, it all went well till the last semester and the girl was kick out of the room leaving her with nothing but her clothes – need I explain further?
And this goes for the loving ladies if that nigger is making you foot the bill sweetie dump him because he is a sissy.
Married too early
Girls are hard wired to care, and a girl tame enough to cohabit will want to act wife too early to please the boy. We are talking washing his clothes, cooking for him, picking up boxers and stocking around the room after him. Honey! When do you read your books, (that may sound far-fetched for a campusor) when do you hang out with your friends? Cohabiting makes you grow old too soon. And I do not mean in the sense you are thinking because that is easily done by even those of us that don’t cohabit.
Playing house at university may sound like a briliant idea when you are still in love. But it will fade with time and you will wonder what you were thinking when you consented. Do not get me wrong there are numerous relationships that have survived in cohabiting but is it really worth the risk just on a small strand of hope based on other peoples success? Just saying.
