By Miriam Busingye
After doing some reading and meditation, I can finally say that love is NOT blind, if anything one should love with their eyes wide open. What do I mean? To the guys in their final semester that are finishing school and are going to seriously start courting their long time boyfriends and girlfriends. And for those that are already engaged because I am sure those are also exist well, good luck.As you have been relating for the past three years you have seen your loved ones do lots of things, those that are really irritable and those that you can live with because I mean, no one is perfect.
The point I am I trying to put across is even as you guys finish campus, this is the time to look at the bigger picture by knowing what you really want, and if he’s not treating you right, leave. Don’t blindly be in a relationship and fully get lost in it as if you have been compelled by the person you’re crazily attracted to in that when your being hurt you’re still confessing your love for them. And when you have chosen to be blinded then surely there’s only going to be a thin ray of light at the end of the tunnel if there is any anyway.
This picture has haunted me for weeks now. Am very sure that most of you have seen it somewhere on social media. The picture is really nastybut it’s the best way of expressing this, and I am convinced that such people really exist. There’s a famous cliché` term that has been used by many of us. “Love Is Blind” I mean there are times when this word surely seems to make a lot of sense because if a cute guy dated a ‘chiggy’ [a fairly looking girl], we would all go like eh man! Love is surely blind! Looking at a scenario were a girl’s boyfriend is abusive both verbally and physically, that should be an eye opener. This is when one should love with their eyes wide open and not be taken up by the less important aspects in the relationship that do not matter.
Going with such a statement is very deceptive because one will end up the wrong person and at some point you feel it is too late to turn back the hands of time. So as you finalize with campus, first put your feelings aside and think with your head. Do not try to even think that you can change that boyfriend of yours since you have been dating for some years because you’re in for a huge disappointment. I mean if he has been slapping you at campus and being very abusive in the way he speaks to you, honey! Am not being a sadist but u should run for your life because he will not change. And trust me it will not get any better when he is done paying your bride price because that is when you will officially become his little drum that he can beat anyhow in the way that he feels like. Just as the men doing the Ding Ding dance will hit those little drums in different forms of rhythms without caring but only to make them produce the sound they want to get. There are many things that your boyfriends have done throughout your campus lives and you have just decided to brush them off and keep consoling yourself by saying nahh he will change he’s still a boy. My dear look closely and see if you’re really going to change him. This also goes out to the guys too. Just know what you want and if you’re not getting it from him/ her, walk away because LIFE IS TOO SHORT, you’ve got to be happy.
