Recently I got asked by a friend, ` How to you make sure a kiss is perfect?’ She has never kissed because she’s afraid to mess up…I got thinking and thought of the easiest steps to a great kiss.
If you’ve done it before, kissing is like the BEST thing ever. For me it is, I love kissing. When it’s done right, it’s better than ice cream dipped in chocolate, covered in sprinkles and smothered in sweet sugary angel wings! For the ice cream lovers you get what I mean…
So here is how to make a kiss as good as it can be…
Oh before I forget, please ensure you have fresh breath, no need shocking someone with a foul mouth…that will be pretty disgusting.
STEP 1: GIVE THEM THE GO-AHEAD.
Either one of you can initiate the kiss. Ladies please don’t be scared to make the first move, it adds more spice for him if you do it first (that’s my little secret, but I spilled it all for you…). However it’s the subtle signs that are exchanged that say `go for it’ that are exciting. Ideally you’ll be sitting on a comfortable surface like a couch or bench or standing somewhere private. Very subtly move your head towards his/hers, merging your personal spaces, hold his/her gaze, glance down very briefly at his/her lips and then back into the eyes and smile. I like to nibble on my lower lip sometimes or maybe lick my lips (secrets again). CONGRATS! You’ve just given him/her the international signal for `kiss me, you fool!’
STEP 2: STAY PRESENT.
While you’re kissing you’re probably thinking SO many things `Am I doing this right?’, `Are they into what I’m doing?’, `OMG! OMG! OMG!’ Don’t worry I’ve been through that too in my younger kissing days or when I like the guy way too much but try your best to stay present. Focus on what you are doing and try to connect with who you’re doing it with. There’s plenty of time for those thoughts later on when you are on the phone giving your BFF the gossip!
STEP 3: KISSING TECHNIQUES.
A perfect kiss should be less raging thunderstorm and more slow sunrise. You want to work up a little excitement, not just go crazy from the first second. Think soft, gentle movements and focus your attention on creating a rhythm together. It’s like a kind of dance with your mouth, a silent conversation only your mouths understand. As you get better at it, the dance gets a lot more exciting. I love to lose myself in the kiss and follow my instinct move my tongue, and sometimes get more naughty and bite his lip…or tongue but that’s me…
STEP 4: LEAVE THEM WANTING MORE.
Every situation is different, but it’s always a good idea to leave them wanting more. If it feels right, let your perfect kiss last anywhere from 5-10 seconds. This is enough time to start feeling pretty heated without them seeing the whole show.
STEP 5: THE PERFECT END.
If you feel like you have reached a peek, start to slow it down. Stop using your tongue and slowly move your head away from his/hers. Maje sure you seal the deal by making sweet eye contact and you’ll probably find that you are both smiling or laughing happily, but sometimes it’s just fire in those eyes…calling you for more. Smiling or laughing however reassures the person that what just happened was amazing. You could even tell them you liked the kiss or they are good whatever you like don’t cram. Now go kiss like pros…
Oh, don’t forget if it’s not all that and doesn’t blow your mind, that’s OK too! Maybe you both need more practice or it’s just not that hot or exciting. It’s all good.
Yours truly,
Trudie.
