Mastering the art of “ghosting”

You’re in love, your life is in the right place, all is well with the world, your better half is everything… up until they aren’t. This is when the hard part starts, the “it’s not you it’s me” “I have to find myself” “You’re too good for me” This however is the old fashioned way of breaking up, nowadays people don’t have the wits to do so, they just ghost you. Ghosting is pretty much ignoring, avoiding and secluding yourself from your boo without giving them reason why. It’s pretty much the easiest way to dump excess weight.

You have probably been ghosted before or you have partaken in this “cowardly” act… cowardly of course with perspective, the conservative human beings that had the decency to let you down face to face are extinct, we are left with narcissistic humans that neglect responsibility in every aspect. No shame in it, it’s an era of a generation. If you are either naive or blind to ghosting, the following are ways to partake in it or stop being oblivious to it.

Zero response. If he’s/she’s not picking up calls, replying texts, or you suspect your number has been blacklisted, then you have just been ghosted. Don’t sugarcoat it because he/she isn’t. You have a mobile phone to communicate anywhere down to the times when you are doing number 2, so unless they are blind or deaf to ringtones, you have been kicked to the curb.

Keyword; busy. “I’m busy” “I’m extremely busy” “I’m very busy of late.” If someone is using the word busy that much, then they are just not that into you. You weren’t busy at the beginning when I called you for fancy dates, or the times you knew you were going to get laid, so why now? You get stood up at the bar, you get lazy texts like K, Lol, even worse lolest, that’s when you have truly lost them; lol is a polite way of saying your joke is as boring AF. Truth is if someone is down with you for the long hall, then they make time for you, period.

Social media blockage. All of a sudden you need to re-follow your supposed boo on Instagram, and to add to it  he has changed his settings to requesting to follow, that is as clear as day, he/she is throwing their deuces up. ✌

Abrupt ending of conversation. “So there’s this new series I have been watching, funniest thing…” “Lol, anyways busy day tomorrow, goodnight.” And just like that, they are offline. Unless he’s sharing his phone with other horny teenage boys waiting in line to call their girlfriends, you are being geared to a ghosting. Pretty soon you will be blue ticketed for a week or more.

So there you have it, rate yourself, have you been the perpetrator of this act, or are you on the receiving end? If on the receiving end, move from the denial stage to the acceptance stage, here is how you deal with it… just believe. You have been dating an emotionally disgruntled person and you are better off not dealing with their shit anymore. Grow a backbone and an ego, especially the boys, begging is so unattractive. Move on to the next thing, this time making sure you are dating someone with the decency to let you down properly, or use them for revenge, whatever floats your boat, as I said, an era of a generation.