“Fools rush in where Angels fear to tread,” Alexander Pope coined in his poem ‘An essay on criticism’, 1709. The same can be used to refer to the many students that rush into relationships and into dating without weighing the effects of the realtionship.
Many girls rush in to date when they notice that soon they will be out of campus and they need a man to rely on since most of them don’t expect to get employment atleast until they are done with graduation. This explains why many female finalists look for better half’s not because of the love they have but because of the benefits they expect as they sit at home.
“The girl I had a crush on always told me that she would never date me, but after final exams, she came claiming to love me. I was blind and I accepted, all she ever wanted was my hard earned money, she loved me and 3 of my friends,” Moses a finalist of Social Works and administration from Makerere commented.
To be honest, there is never a right time to date and not to date. Although the peer pressure aspect always gets the better of young people as they tend to fall in love because they see many of their friends falling in love. Chances are high that your relationship will not last since you rushed into it, chances are also high you are really not in love but just masquerading in the feeling.
“I once rushed into a relationship because all my friends were in one, even my best friend was in love. I felt left out, some of my friends thought I was lesibian so I just had to do it. One month down the road, I suffered a heart break, it broke me so much. But hey, there is never a right time to date,” added Joyce a student of Procurement at Makerere Bussiness School.
Love will find you, you don’t have to rush to find it, take life a step a time and fizzle out all that pressure from friends and family. Dating will leave a permanent imprint in your life and their is a possibility that if you messed up during dating, it will change your life forever.
Fuckboys, players, most of these are just an effect of a relationship gone wrong, it also applies to the ladies. Probably he/she was hurt by a person they truly loved, so they also set out on a path of hurting many others, not because they enjoy it but because they are afraid of ever being so vulnerable to love again.
“People call me a fuckboy, others call me a player, others say I have no heart but I am just afraid of ever getting hurt again. The best way not to get hurt or disappointed has been to lower my expectations and to never get attached, the girls come and go, perhaps they need a little player in their lives too,” Allan, a finalist from Uganda Christian University [UCU] commented.
Whatever it is, my advice to you is not to rush into love, love is a trap just like growing up. Wait until love chooses you and follow the drift, don’t be led astray.
