Every guy, however introverted he might be, has a clique of ride-or-die ‘hommies’. These friends are closer to him than any other person in the world and if you are not keen, you will think they are his biological brothers. These ‘gangos’ subliminally have an influence in his life more than any other human being on this planet. That said, my issue arises: You as a girl, what are you supposed to do to be in good terms with these ‘honourables’? Remember, getting a husband after campus can be really challenging! LOL. But worry not; I’ve got you covered:
Don’t be too clingy with your boyfriend
Miss Lovergirl, we understand you love your man from here to the moon and back, but give him some breathing space. Don’t follow him all over campus to his cheap ‘Kafunda’. His boys also want some time with him, and it’s nagging for them to always have to convince him to leave you and go with them.
Know their hobbies and likes
This helps a lot. You will know when their moods are off-key so that they don’t perceive you as an insensitive b****! For instance, you can’t just ask why your boyfriend didn’t pick up when you called at 10pm last night. “He wasn’t cheating; we are talking champions league, b****!”
Never let them hear you ask money from him.
Chances are you will become a gold digger in the eyes of your boyfriend’s friends, even if you are going to use the money to buy a broom to sweep his room. These dudes are going to de-campaign you: better ask privately.
Wash the dishes after they eat.
Traditionally as Africans, and Ugandans in particular, we have the natural belief that housework should never be done by a boy when a girl is present. So if you’re done cooking the food for these hungry men, and feeding them till they doze off in belches, wash the dishes. They will pester your guy on how lazy you are if you don’t. And trust me, how ever much he loves you, he will suddenly submit to pressure and let you go.
Do not act a boss of sorts over your boyfriend’s TV.
It is normal that you will be in his room most of your free time, so watching the TV regularly is only normal. But hey, the ‘citizens’ need to watch soccer.
Don’t ignore them when you bump into them.
Most girls have this tendency. They pretend to not know their boyfriends’ friends in their boyfriends’ absence. Sister, these men will remember!
Don’t get too cosy with other boys.
Okay I understand, you come from a top high school and many of your O.Bs made it to Uni, but go slow with the long hugs. These faithful bros will take the innocent act for infidelity. You don’t want that to happen. Do you?
Guys are easily impressed just as they are easily turned off, my role is just to keep you aware. Break a leg, Diva.
