You remember the time you broke up with your ex-boyfriend or girlfriend? Well the situation can be heartbreaking and a tearful one. But nevertheless, most ladies want to be friends with their past lovers but that act of friendship can be bad and degrading to your love life as well as your new relationship. This is why:
Keeping your ex as a friend brings back the past memories. After a breakup, memories hurt the most especially of the god times you shared. The moment you see your ex, the first thing that comes in your mind is the memory of something nasty or queer you did. That memory alone can be degrading to yourself. Why not trash every memory and forget about your past relationship?
You lose self-respect. The reason you will not talk well when you meet your ex is because of the shame of the things you went through. You won’t feel so comfortable jazzing with your ex in front of your friends. Once you cannot introduce your ex as ‘this is my ex’ to your friends, then you are not true friends.
You can’t trust your ex whole heartedly. Keeping your ex as a friend might expose you to risks of rape and other things in case you are alone with him. Once someone becomes your ex, in most cases they lose respect for you and can do something bad to hurt you especially if you were the cause of the breakup. Therefore, it might not be a welcome idea to keep your ex as a friend.
It breeds jealousy and discomfort.
One of the most hurting things is to see your ex that you once loved so much chill with someone else. That feeling can be heartbreaking because of the jealousy that builds up especially if that ex was your all in all.
There is no openness. Most people start lacking the jazz once they breakup. You see in a relationship, one of the best jazz is to chat about your love or past experiences. How can you then jazz about your breakup when you meet your ex? That cannot work because after a breakup, most people feel a bit shy or uncomfortable to talk openly and joke freely with their exes.
Nevertheless, letting your ex as a friend might be more challenging as sometimes the flashbacks will always dig holes in your heart. Though a times it really helps to keep your ex as a friend, because they will always be on a look out for what you are doing. This will in turn propel you to work much harder so that your success angers them as much as the pain they made you go through during breakup.
Blocking or unfriending your ex might also not help since one day one time you might need each other due to several reasons, employment, job links and so forth.
