‘Change is a fact of life. If you can’t change, change will change you” said my CRE teacher. Love is not a bed of roses but a long journey with pot holed Ugandan roads and sharp corners like those in the Kigezi hills. You fell for him but for some unclear reasons he turned you into a capital city as he is enjoying the other states of the country. He now travels back to the capital with queer signs and it’s high time you opened your eyes wide and note conclusive changes down.
1. Appetite Loss: Every time you meet for makeup shit or quality time he plays the fatigue stunts and shows no interest in making love. That’s the 1st sign he’s experiencing belches from over feeding.
2. Memories fade away: There are those special moments made for yourselves like the 1st day you met, 1st kiss and sex. If you ever ask him about such and he thinks so hard before remembering, treats them lightly, then he with no doubt made new memories of the same kind with other girls.
3. Increased Privacy: He no longer wants you to intervene in anything that has to do with his personal life, not even his friends. That’s a feeling of insecurity because one of his friends might slip their tongues and talk about his new fuck girls. Privacy can also stretch as far as changing the shared smart phone password. How else will you read his sexts?
4. Decreased Attention: You are no longer a big deal. You last appeared on his whatsapp dp 3 months ago, he shares those selfies of you and him on Instagram & fb no more, he transforms into a phone addict in your public presence. All this he does being on the watch by the next fuck girl on the list and he is not about to lose the chance because of you taking up the necktie role in his life.
5. Hobbylising lies: Faking life has become part of him. “I am in the library” he texts but passes by on a boda boda to town. Fulfilling his promises is also turning into a mystery because you are no longer a priority but rather his keeper.
If all these indicators line up, don’t wait for the green lights to move on but rather accelerate before he expands his #Tugabaane account.