Written By Phillip Etemesi
Have you ever found yourself getting really amped up for a house party, only to end up alone, drunk, and disappointedly chatting with your boys about that hot chic you definitely should’ve hooked up with?
We’ve all been there. But today I want to rid you of that frustration. I want to give you the roadmap to successfully having sex with girls at house parties, and waking up with a smile on your face (hopefully). And I’m going to show you that it’s really not that hard.
But if you are intending to have sex at a party, make sure it’s one where you are not known by everyone. You really don’t want to be trending the next day
Now to the important part. A house party has everything you need to have a successful romp. It has, in order of importance:
The built in social comfort, with some anonymity
It’s really all there for you: presented on the shiniest silver platter. Once you understand what’s going on, and how to use it, you can see great levels of success.
In fact…women are more promiscuous and easy to get at house parties
Take any typical, socially calm girl, throw her in an environment of hedonism and booze, and she’ll go a little wild. Basically:
Typical Girl + Alcohol + Music + Other Drunk Girls + Safe Environment + Place to Sleep = Wild Crazy Campus Girl
And the wild party girl doesn’t have to have the worries or restraints of her normal alter ego. Why?
What do women think about when they deal with guys in general? This:
# Social Reputation. If you or any other person threatens a girl’s social reputation, she will not hesitate to throw you under the bus. She will do so with extreme prejudice. But, a party lowers this risk because everyone is acting wild. It’s a massive melting pot. It’s basic social contagion. Everyone is jumping around and screaming and kissing, so unless you do something really dumb or make a girl look bad, she doesn’t really have to be too concerned about her social reputation.
# Plausible Deniability. Any man who’s been in the seduction world for even a minute knows that you need to give a girl plausible deniability to take her to bed. “Oh, I dunno, he just invited me back to watch a movies… and it kinda just happened.” These are actual words a girl has told her friends after I invited her back to my room “to play watch a movie,” which we actually did! For about 10 minutes. The party has THE NUMBER ONE EXCUSE WOMEN LOVE: “I was really drunk!” Was she really drunk? Probably. Possibly. Potentially. But regardless, it gives her an easy out to make a decision that she would willingly make, but be judged for under normal circumstances: sleeping with dominant men.
At a house party, the only thing she needs to worry about is whether or not you’re a sexy man and whether or not you’ll give her a night to remember. And because she has none of the other factors to worry about, she can be a lot more forward and reveal her true nature…
Know this too….
Most guys will ask a girl to be their beer partner, which I’ve found is a pretty reliable maneuver. You have fun, you can make fun of her a bit (or her you), you get the “us vs. them” dynamic going, and you have an excuse to put your hands on her as she inevitably hugs you for making that average-skill shot.
Alternatively, I love asking girls to explore the house. I say we’re “partners in crime,” and as we go around, I try to make it as theatrical as possible and say things like, “We probably aren’t allowed to go in here… are you ready, partner?”
If there’s a dance area, grinding on a girl and getting her turned on with your moves is always a good call. Even if there aren’t that many people dancing, if there’s good music, you can create an intimate “dance bubble” with your girl as you prepare to escalate.
In order to streamline and simplify the process of getting to a roll in the hay as quickly and reliably as possible at parties, here are the steps you need to follow…
Step 1: Make an Entrance Like A Bawse
Establishing your presence is incredibly important. You want girls to notice you at the party, and since parties are energy-driven by definition, you want to peacock a little bit.
I know guys who sometimes walk around and give people high fives when they walk in; some just say hi to people nearest the door. I usually like to be a bit more innocuous and show off some dance moves so that I have people looking at me and thinking about approaching. Regardless of whether or not they actually do, my momentum has already started.
Step 2: Scope the Place Out
As you get there, walk around the party. This gives you a great opportunity to meet people and to see what the most fun parts of event are. Is there a dance area? Great. Are people chilling in a hot tub? Wonderful opportunity. Are there plenty of bedrooms and closets that are easily accessible? Fantastic.
Knowing all of these places will serve you greatly when you inevitably get drunker and are in “go mode” for closing the deal with a girl.
Step 3: Approach
The thing about parties is that they are designed for random people to meet each other. So when, you approach a girl and you have positive energy and good fundamentals, you can say anything to her and you will almost never get blown out. A party is by far the most forgiving environment in this regard. You can compliment her on what she’s wearing. You can ask her where the most fun area is.
Once you start chatting her up, go through the normal progressions, but don’t deep dive too much. At a party, when a girl is drunk and looking to let loose, she wants to connect with you, but she’s usually not assessing you as a boyfriend. She only needs to be comfortable enough to take you as a lover.
So, after a few minutes…
Step 4: Move Her and Do Something Fun
It creates the same dynamic and it adds the danger of somewhere you shouldn’t be and creates a whirlwind of excitement for the potential hook up.
Step 5: Move Her Somewhere Private
If you haven’t used the exploring strategy yet, this is a great time. If you have, then you should already be hooking up with her. In either case, go hard. Grab her, slam her up against a wall, and start kissing her like the world is about to end.
If you want to use a different strategy to move her, just say “
“It’s really loud here, let’s go to somewhere quiet.”
Any other excuse you can think of, because it’s a party, and you really shouldn’t overthink it.
Step 6: The Action
It should be quick and always remember to use a c0ndom. In fact, alwys carry one if you know you’ll be going to a house party. You surely don’t want to leave there with organisms.
If you can’t find a private enough place to smash her, just ask her to leave the party with you. That should be pretty easy since you have already done the hard part.
What if you’re having a hard time getting a girl?
# If you are hitting it off with a girl and she’s legitimately having fun getting drunk with her friends and running around, since the logistics are perfect, you can just play the waiting game until people eventually start falling away, pairing off, and things die down until it’s time for you to escalate.
# If you haven’t had any success with a girl yet and it’s somewhere around 2 am, just keep hanging out. Once 3… 4… .or even 5 roll around, the girls who really want to hook up but haven’t found a guy yet will stick around… and it’ll just be you, them, and some quiet late night talk. Use it to your advantage